Setting Boundaries Is Messy

I set all kinds of whacky boundaries with my pals. I tolerated all sorts of nonsense that I wouldn't put up with now. I made all the mistakes. My pals did too. No one taught us the process to set boundaries easily in non-monogamy, we figured it out organically. Lots of "figuring it out" was through (sometimes brutal) trial and error. Luckily, mistakes don't get repeated too often. After I fall on my face once or twice I learn my lesson. I feel far calmer in boundary discussions now than ever before. And I know that I'm allowed to say no out of respect for myself. 💕🦌